There is a Tibetan Story, that one day an old sage asked his followers the following: – Why do people shout at each other when they are angry?
The men thought for a few moments: -Because we lose our calm – said one – that’s why we scream.
– -But why shout when the other person is next to you? – asked the wise man – Is it not possible to speak to him in a low voice? Why do you yell at a person when you are angry?
The men gave some other answers but none of them satisfied the sage.
Finally he explained: -When two people are angry, their hearts drift apart.
To cover that distance they must shout, to be able to hear themselves. The angrier they are, the louder they will have to yell to hear each other across that great distance.
Then the sage continued: – What happens when two people fall in love? They don’t yell at each other but speak softly. Why? Their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small.
The wise man smiled and said: – When they fall in love even more, what happens? They don’t speak, they just whisper and become even closer in their love.
Finally they don’t even need to whisper, they just look at each other and that’s it. This is how close two people are when they love each other … Then he said: -When you discuss, don’t let your hearts go away, don’t say words that further separate you, the day may come when the distance is so far that you won’t find your way back …
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